15 Things to do to Prevent Burnout as a Sex Worker

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Because I’m burnt out…
By Miss Mae Ling

In any aspect of life, we must ask ourselves – “what is the goal? Why do we do it?” Some may enter into the sex work industry thinking it’s quick money and must work hard before the age starts to show. But by doing so, you are aging yourself a lot quicker and burning that spark inside of you until you retire early just to come back to it once again once you’ve had a break. Like an unhealthy relationship where you break up, get back together, break up again and so forth. Let’s make the relationship you have with yourself and your work a healthy one. To last long in this industry (yes, you can!), sex workers may prioritize and consider a few things.

1. Prioritize self-care like a sex worker cares
As part of the work, you care about everything and everyone else. Even if you are a femdom, you care about your submissives even when it’s supposed to be about your pleasure! You take photos of your time relaxing at the spa and are technically still working. When was the last time you did something for yourself that you didn’t monetize on? That you didn’t think about how it would affect your work? Make time for your own self-care. Be selfish. You do you – so that you can continue to do everyone else.

2. Exercise like a sexy sex worker
This isn’t just a thing that you do to keep your body smoking hot for work. No, this is for you. Working out, decreases levels of stress and releases endorphins. Feel good, look good and have the strength to kick ass at the things that you do best. It’s easy to fall out of your exercise routine with all the travels or strange occurrences that life throws at you, but remember this is time for you to get into a flow state. Out of your head and into your body. Really feel yourself – you sexy beast.

3. Eat healthy like a sex worker putting something in their mouth
Negative spirals really can take a toll you. Starts off with feeling shitty, eating shitty foods, to break outs on your face due to shitty food, feeling sad because that money making face is now no longer flawless, add on the make up to cover it up just to be in front of a camera – but there is never any make up good enough or any amount that will ever cover up the truth behind it. Your personality, your face shows it all. Go ahead, fake it. Everyone else who is a fan, who knows you, will see right through it. Eat well, feel good. You put so many different things into your body as is, let’s put something that truly nourishes you and makes you glow from the inside out.

4. Sleep like a sex worker after good sex
Sleep is the all-powerful healing goodness that we all know and love. As a sex worker, you work for yourself. You are an entrepreneur; you make your own hours. So fuck that alarm in the ass – it doesn’t need to make a sound. You’re busy with a spicy hot dream date. Not only are you refreshed but you also got some really good creative content. Thanks subconscious!

5. Shift your money perspective – long term money like a successful sex worker
You think the money is quick and good and so you work yourself so much that you burn out. If you actually think of it, by burning yourself out quickly, you are affecting your long term money. The money you could be making later down the line is now dried up because you aren’t at your best. Yes, people can tell when you are not at your best. They are coming to you as an escape and if the escape isn’t the best one yet – they will easily find another available escape that will blow their minds.

6. Saying no – deny like the sexiest sex worker dominant
There is so much power in saying no. By saying no to the client that drains your energy you are reserving it for yourself and the correct connection. By being picky and selective with whom you share yourself with – you not only create an exclusive brand but you also feel good about the people you do spend time with. They don’t drain you emotionally and you are at your best to drain them. No, that message doesn’t need to be responded to immediately. No, you don’t need to take that appointment. No, you don’t need to go online. These are all things you should want to do because you enjoy to do it with the people there. Not because you have to.

7. Ask for help –
As a provider you may feel as though you are the badass bitch that takes on so much. You continually give your time, your energy, you. You are a business though. What is a business if you do not expand and ask for help? It could even be the simplest of things such as cooking, cleaning or more elaborate like editing clips. If you are feeling like there is an aspect of your life that requires more energy, find help to ease it. When that is easier you can focus more on the other things that you truly enjoy.

8. Eliminate unnecessary work
Let’s make a list of all the things you are doing right now. Yes, including all the little things like posting to Twitter to checking emails for bookings. Now consider how often you do it. You say you do these things for work, but they’re just bad habits that break up your work day. Nobody needs to check their emails 10 times a day. That tweet you wanted to post, now lead to a 30-minute hole of you scrolling through your feed. You can be quite productive if you think slower and ask yourself: “why am I doing this?” That’ll lead you to eliminating little things, yes even that thing you do to track your productivity just so you feel good about yourself with checking off those boxes.

9. Take control of yourself – as your own sexy boss
Let’s revisit the reality that you are your own boss. Now let’s shift the perspective and take a look at you working for a boss that asks so much of you. You are working weekends, holidays, after hours in the middle of the night, in the middle of your dinner or lunch break. Would you continue to work for that company? Would you put up to the demands of that boss? Then why do you put up with your own shitty boss that is inside of your head?

10. Change environment to something that’ll inspire the sex
If you work for yourself, if you make your own schedule, do you change it up or do you feel as though you are stuck in your own hell hole of a cubicle that is your living room office? You are the creator of your own reality, so you can literally decide where you want to work…all the time. By changing your environment, you expose yourself to new inspirations, muses and connections. You constantly spice things up for others, spice up your surroundings for yourself.

11. Letting go of perfectionism – sex isn’t perfect
Nobody is a tougher critic than yourself. That image you work so hard to paint of yourself, the brand you are creating. Sure, it’s wonderful but by being so perfect you are creating unnecessary stress for yourself. By putting out what you can whenever you can, people can see your growth over time, follow your progress and celebrate your success. Realize, everyone starts somewhere. It may be difficult not to compare yourself to others, but nobody will be as good as you at being yourself.

12. Pursue passion – we all like passionate sex
Is this a passion of yours? Or is it something that you are doing currently to pay off school or something else? Keep that reason of why you are something at the forefront of your mind. When you pursue your passion, it shouldn’t be a dreaded work day but an excitement for what comes that day. Sex work isn’t your passion? Great, then don’t work yourself so hard that you burn yourself out for something that you didn’t even care for in the first place.

13. Hobby
Do you have a hobby outside of sex work? Something that has absolutely nothing to do with your work? Great, because you are not your work. The work doesn’t define you. You are a whole individual with other things in your life and work is just an avenue that allows you to live the life you dream of.

14. Take a vacation
You are your own boss. If you don’t advocate for your own vacation days, then who will?! Take as many as you’d like! The beauty of the work is that there will be work when you get back. As a sex worker, we do not get any sick days, maternity leave or holidays. So you have to create it for yourself. You’ve been focused on making all that money and what’s the point of money if you’re not going to enjoy any of it? After all, you deserve it bitch.

15. Be compassionate to yourself
Comparison is the biggest spirit killer. Seeing everyone else’s success is there to inspire you not make you self-doubt about your own skills and awesomeness. Be kind, even if you catch yourself doing any of the above things – it’s ok. You noticed it and now you know to how to pivot to a healthier relationship with yourself.
I wish for every sex worker to be successful and happy. There is so much money to go around, but play the game right so that you are able to continue making that money. When people say get a real job to sex workers…my mind is blown as they have no idea how much work sex workers actually do. We don’t have to prove anything to them. Do you and get that bag.

Miss Mae Ling is a Los Angeles based professional dominatrix. The high school cheerleader with the force of an Asian tiger mom. Her hobbies include ballet, yoga, circus training and traveling. You can find out more on her website www.missmaeling.com

Live-Strip Joins Pineapple Support as Sponsor

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Camming platform Live-Strip has joined the ranks of over 60 adult businesses and organizations committing funds and resources to Pineapple Support.

“As the leading adult live chat provider in the German-speaking area, we are especially aware of our responsibilities to our business partners,” said Live-Strip Managing Director Daniel Bender. “Whether it is dealing with a society that wants to marginalize the lifestyles our cam-girls have chosen for themselves or problems that customers relay to them, we know that being a cam-girl can be a stressful and very demanding job. We are very happy that we have found a reliable partner in Pineapple Support who can provide professional help before the problems become too big to handle.”

Founded in 2018 by Leya Tanit, Pineapple Support has so far connected over 10,000 adult performers and industry members to mental health services, including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

“I’m incredibly thankful to Live-Strip for their commitment to our work globally,” said Tanit. “Their generous membership helps us to connect Pineapple Support’s services with adult performers who need it.”

Follow Pineapple Support online and on Twitter.

Find Live-Strip online.

Pineapple Support Marks 5th Anniversary Milestone

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Pineapple Support is marking its fifth anniversary with the announcement that it has reached a new outreach milestone.

A rep reports that that the nonprofit has now connected more than 10,000 adult performers with mental health and emotional support services.

Leya Tanit, founder and CEO of Pineapple Support, said, “When we launched Pineapple Support in 2018, it was with the incredible hope that we could at least help a small sector of the industry. To look back five years later on 10,000 lives touched is moving and sobering. We still have a long way to go, but we’re ever closer to ensuring that no performer feels like they have to struggle alone.”

Pineapple Support reports that between 300 and 400 performers use its resources at any given time, working with more than 370 therapists globally.

“The platforms, people, organizations and outlets that have supported us are truly responsible for this milestone, and my heartfelt thanks go out to them, as well as the incredibly talented therapists we work with,” Tanit added. “We’re proud of what we’ve accomplished and are working hard to launch more initiatives, support groups, webinars, events and campaigns over the coming months. I hope more people will join us in building a safer, healthier, more supportive industry.”

To learn more or to become a sponsor, visit PineappleSupport.org.

Pineapple Support Launches ADHD Support Group – Sponsored By Clips4Sale

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Pineapple Support will host a weekly online support group for performers with attention deficit disorder, sponsored by Clips4Sale.

The group, “How ADHD Can Be Your Super Power,” will meet over six weeks and will be led by Pineapple Support therapist Moushumi Ghose. The first session will be held on Tuesday, April 18 at 4 p.m. EDT.

“Learning the basics about ADHD, its symptoms, related diagnoses and treatment options can be a game-changer both for those with ADHD, as well as those that want to support others with the disorder better,” said Pineapple therapist Michele Green.

Founded in 2018 by Leya Tanit, Pineapple Support has connected over 10,000 adult performers and industry members with mental health services, including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

“A better understanding of ADHD, and the way its traits are perceived, can be hugely beneficial,” said Tanit. “When we change the way we think about ADHD, we can support ourselves and others in a way that’s free from shame and judgment. Knowing how to advocate for yourself and ask for the support you need can pave the path towards living a more meaningful life with ADHD.”

The group will meet every Tuesday at the same time, with the final session on May 23.

For more information and to reserve a space, click here.

Visit Pineapple Support online and follow the organization on Twitter.

Pineapple Support To Address Domestic Abuse With New PornHub-Sponsored Support Group

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Pineapple Support will host a weekly online support group for performers who have survived domestic abuse, sponsored by Pornhub.

The group, “Survivors Of Domestic Abuse,” will take place over six weeks and will be led by Pineapple Support therapist Alicia Graham The first meeting will be held on Tuesday, March 21 at 4 p.m. EST.

“We understand that anyone who has experienced an abusive relationship needs a safe and compassionate environment to begin the process of healing,” said Graham. “Our highest priority is ensuring the group environment is safe, non-judgmental, and understanding for all participants.”

Founded in 2018 by Leya Tanit, Pineapple Support has connected over 8,000 adult performers and industry members to mental health services, including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

“If you feel diminished in any of your intimate or family relationships, think you might have been in an abusive situation, or have experienced violence,” said Tanit. “We are offering a support group dedicated to people who have experienced intimate partner abuse, violence, or trauma. Join us for positive, affirming, and confidential support.”

The group will meet every Tuesday at the same time, with the final session on Apr. 25.

For more information and to reserve a space, click here.

Visit Pineapple Support online and follow the organization on Twitter.

Sleep Glorious Sleep

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With a busy schedule it is often very easy to forget about even the most basic method of self-care, sleep. Staying up late to meet deadlines, getting sucked into a new series on Netflix or just getting into a bad evening routine; missing out on much needed sleep can have detrimental effects on your mental and physical health.

The recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours, with most people not needing any more than eight hours in bed to be well rested. Keeping a routine can be extremely beneficial, going to bed and getting up at the same time every day, yes, this includes weekends. Being consistent reinforces your body’s sleep-wake cycle and makes Monday mornings a lot less painful.

5 Reasons Why Getting Enough Sleep Is Important

1) Boosts Immune Function
Studies have shown that even a small loss of sleep can reduce your immune functions. People who sleep less than 7 hrs a night are nearly 3 times more likely to develop a cold than those who sleep 8 hrs or more.

2) Stay At A Healthy Weight
lack of sleep has been shown to disrupt the daily fluctuations in appetite hormones. As a result, when you are sleep deprived you are prone to having a bigger appetite and eating more calories.
A poor night’s sleep can also triggers markers of inflammation in your body and cell damage.

3) Lower Your Risk Of Heart Disease
Studies have shown that people who do not get enough sleep are far more likely to experience heart issues than those individuals who get between 7 and 8 hours of sleep per night.

4) Improved Concentration & Bain Activity
A good night of sleep can maximize concentration, problem solving skills and productivity, while poor sleep has been shown to impair brain function. A short night of sleep can negatively impact some aspects of your brain function to the same degree as alcohol intoxication.

5) Reduce Stress and Improve Your Mood
Sleep and mood are closely connected; poor or inadequate sleep can cause irritability and stress, while healthy sleep can enhance well-being. During a study subjects who were limited to only 4.5 hours of sleep a night for one week reported feeling more stressed, angry, sad, and mentally exhausted.

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Getting enough sleep isn’t only about total hours of sleep. It’s also important to get good-quality sleep on a regular schedule so you feel rested when you wake up.
If you often have trouble sleeping — or if you often still feel tired after sleeping — talk with your doctor.

Pineapple Support to Host Panel for Platforms at TES

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Pineapple Support, the adult industry’s leading mental health non-profit, will attend the TES Affiliate Conference in Cascais, Portugal this week, where it will host a discussion about how the community can better support adult content creators.

 

The discussion, “Sane, Secure, Sexy?” will take place on Friday, February 24th. Representing the organization at the conference and hosting the discussion will be Leya Tanit, founder and CEO of Pineapple Support, Michelle Marriott, Community Outreach Chair of Pineapple Support, and Andra Chirnogeanu, Head of Business Communication of Stripchat.

“We are going to have a very frank and open discussion about how we can help content creators feel supported and appreciated by the platforms they use, as well as by the industry as a whole,”

“We are going to have a very frank and open discussion about how we can help content creators feel supported and appreciated by the platforms they use, as well as by the industry as a whole,” says Tanit. “We need to make sure that those who work in front of and behind the camera feel confident and supported when confronted with difficult situations. Together we can create a more sustainable and attractive adult industry.”

 

Tanit founded Pineapple Support in 2018, after a string of losses in the adult industry from depression and other mental illnesses. The organization, a qualified 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization in the United States, has so far connected over 8,000 adult performers to mental health services, including free and low-cost, therapy, counseling, and emotional support.

 

The discussion, “Sane, Secure, Sexy?” will take place on Friday, February 24 at 11AM. Additional details and the full schedule of events during the TES Affiliate Conference can be found by visiting tesaffiliateconferences.com/schedule.

 

Anyone that would like to speak with a member of the Pineapple Support team during the TES Affiliate Conference should email contact@pineapplesupport.org to arrange an appointment.

Pineapple Support Unveils Exclusive Benefits for Members of Pineapples United

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Pineapple Support, the adult industry’s leading mental health non-profit, is now providing exclusive benefits to members of their adult industry support club, Pineapples United. For supporting the organization for as little as $10/month, members of Pineapples United will receive a range of discounts for products and services from its partners, specifically for adult performers.

 

  • 15% off adult novelties, games, and sexual wellness products from The White Unicorn
  • $10 discount to get tested with CLEAR
  • 3 months of free hosting and 25% off with MojoHost
  • 10% off social media management, social media strategy, social engineering, and consulting with 7Veils.
  • 10% off subscription services to legal adult industry resources from Adult.law
  • 20% off all lubricants and intimate products from Sliquid
  • 15% off branding and boudoir sessions from Casey Jade Photography

 

The list of perks will expand as new partner deals are added.

“Community is an integral part of the adult industry and we know that caring for our community is as important to you as it is to us,”

“Community is an integral part of the adult industry and we know that caring for our community is as important to you as it is to us,” says Leya Tanit, founder, and CEO of Pineapple Support. “When you join Pineapples United, you help sustain the work we do. That’s why we’ve worked with our partners to thank you for that support by extending exclusive benefits. By joining Pineapples United, you will also be invited to join us at regular meetings and have your voice and opinions heard, helping us to provide the best possible support and resources.”

 

Tanit founded Pineapple Support in 2018, after a string of losses in the adult industry from depression and other mental illnesses. The organization, a qualified 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization in the United States, has connected over 8,000 adult performers to mental health services, including free and low-cost, therapy, counseling, and emotional support.

 

Various Pineapples United membership packages are available to anyone in the adult industry that wishes to contribute a monthly subscription, beginning from as little as $10 per month. To learn more about becoming a member, please visit Pineapplesupport.org/Pineapples-United. If you have a business and want to become an official sponsor of Pineapple Support, please visit Pineapplesupport.org/Sponsorship.

Pineapple Support To Launch Autism Support Group

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Pineapple Support, the adult industry’s leading mental health nonprofit, will host a free, online support group with a focus on living with autism in the adult industry, sponsored by Chaturbate. The 6-week support group, “Sex Work on the Spectrum” will be led by Pineapple therapist Rachael Wells and will begin on Tuesday, February 21st at 5pm EST.

“Living with autism and being in the adult industry can provide amazing opportunities and additionally, at times, a sense of othering from the world,” says Pineapple therapist Rachael Wells. “Stimming, existing autistically, discussing the ups and downs of society and its relation to autism will all be covered.”

 

Pineapple Support was founded by British performer Leya Tanit in 2018, after a string of losses in the adult industry from depression and other mental illnesses. The organization, a qualified 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization in the United States, has so far connected over 8,000 adult performers to mental health services, including free and low-cost, therapy, counseling, and emotional support.

 

“Living on the autistic spectrum as a sex worker can present a unique set of challenges, which can be difficult to navigate alone,” says Tanit. “Supporting each other within the community, as well as gaining a deeper understanding can help to remove some of the shame and disconnection around living with autism. Together, we’ll validate, uplift, and celebrate autistic joy as sex workers, guided by talented autistic therapist Rachael Wells.”

 

The six-week “Sex Work on the Spectrum” support group begins on Tuesday, February 21st at 5pm EST. Sessions will last for around one hour and will take place online each Tuesday at the same time until March 28th. For more information about this support group and to reserve a place, visit pineapplesupport.org/support-groups.

Pineapple Support Launches Fundraising Competition, With Trip for Two to Curaçao

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Pineapple Support, the adult industry’s leading mental health non-profit, has launched a month-long competition to raise funds for the organization, in partnership with WebCam Lab.

From now until February 15th, the person who raises the most funds for Pineapple Support will win a trip for two people to Lalexpo VIP in Curaçao from March 3rd to 6th, 2023. The trip, valued at around $4,000, includes flights, hotel, event tickets, and food during the event.

“You can make a difference in the lives of many in our community by creating a fundraising page and winning this amazing prize,” says Tanit. “Requests for mental health services and support are continuing to rise into this new year and we need your support — because no-one should ever feel alone.”

“You can make a difference in the lives of many in our community by creating a fundraising page and winning this amazing prize.”

Pineapple Support was founded by British performer Leya Tanit in 2018, after a string of losses in the adult industry from depression and other mental illnesses. The organization, a qualified 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization in the United States, has so far connected over 8,000 adult performers to mental health services, including free and low-cost, therapy, counseling, and emotional support.

Those interested in participating in the competition can create a fundraising page by visiting https://secure.givelively.org/donate/pineapple-support-society and clicking “I want to fundraise for this.”

The winners will be announced via Pineapple Support’s Twitter account @pineappleysw on February 20th, 2023.

To learn more about becoming a sponsor of Pineapple Support, please click here.