Pineapple Support Secures 501(c)(3) Nonprofit Status

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LOS ANGELES — Pineapple Support has announced that it has secured 501(c) 3 nonprofit status in the U.S., nearly a year to the day from the organization’s founding.

The mental health resource for adult industry talent already has nonprofit status in the U.K.

“This is the most tremendous anniversary gift Pineapple Support could ask for,” said founder Leya Tanit. “This clears the way for many other people, companies and other organizations who want to support the organization as a charitable deduction.”

Pineapple Support was launched by Tanit in response to a string of losses in the adult industry from depression and other mental illness. In its first year alone, Pineapple Support has connected more than one hundred adult performers to mental health services including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

Major adult companies have already stepped up to support the organization, including PornHub, ModelHub, xHamster, Kink.com, Clips4Sale, Gamma Films, Rabbits Reviews and more, and Tanit hopes the organization’s new nonprofit status will encourage more to give — and to give more.

“We’ve worked so hard to achieve nonprofit status,” Tanit said. “This opens up a new chapter for Pineapple Support, and will help us reach even more performers in the coming year. I thank everyone who has supported us so far, and all those who will now join them.”

For more information, click here.

Rabbits Reviews Joins Pineapple Support at the Bronze Level

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LOS ANGELES — Pineapple Support has announced that Rabbits Reviews has joined on as a sponsor at the Bronze Level, helping provide mental health resources for adult talent. 

The Montreal-based company joins PornHub, ModelHub, xHamster, Kink.com, Clips4Sale, Gamma Films and other major adult companies in committing funds and resources to the organization.

“We are extremely pleased and honored to be able to support such an important cause for our industry,” said Mantas M., founder of Rabbits Reviews. “Throughout our tenure in the adult market, starting with Rabbits Reviews, The Best Porn and now with our cam initiatives, we have always strived to support the community through positivity, empathy, and honesty. Being part of the Pineapple Support family, we are proud to advocate for and support the de-stigmatisation of mental health in the adult industry.”

Pineapple Support was launched in 2018 by British performer Leya Tanit, and has since connected over one hundred adult performers to mental health services including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

“We are grateful to Rabbits for their commitment to the mental health and well-being of adult industry workers,” said Tanit. “It’s been inspiring to work with them, and learn how their own corporate practices facilitate a better work-life balance for their employees. Their much-needed funds will help us raise awareness, develop new initiatives, and provide more services to adult performers.”

For more information, find Pineapple Support online and on Twitter.

Kink.com Joins Pineapple Support at the Silver Level

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LOS ANGELES — Pineapple Support has announced that Kink.com has thrown its support behind the organization at the Silver Level to help provide mental health resources for adult performers.

Kink.com joins Gamma Entertainment, Pornhub, Modelhub, xHamster, Clips4Sale and other major adult companies in committing funds and resources to the organization.

The company will additionally provide Pineapple Support with design and marketing services.

“In a changing industry, it’s imperative that we support performers,” said Kink.com CEO Alison Boden. “In connecting performers to zero-cost, stigma-free mental health care, Pineapple Support helps create a more equitable, responsible and ethical workplace — and makes our industry stronger. We’re proud to do what we can to assist performers, the lifeblood of our industry.”

Pineapple Support was launched in 2018 by British performer Leya Tanit, and has connected over one hundred adult performers to mental health services including free and low-cost therapy, counseling and emotional support.

“Kink.com has been an industry leader in its commitment to performer rights for over two decades,” said Tanit. “We thank them for their commitment and generous support. Thanks to them, we can support more performers and raise awareness about one of the most pressing issues in our community.”

Find Pineapple Support online and on Twitter.

In related news, the nonprofit recently hosted a free suicide prevention workshop for members of the adult industry; click here for details.

WeCamgirls supports Pineapple

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WeCamgirls is promoting Pineapple support on their website to help get the word out as well as to recruit new volunteer listeners. The models on the site understand and can relate to the hardships some have to overcome in the adult industry to get the feeling of acceptance, but also the mental problems that will manifest when these hardships are not overcome.

“Yes”, Tristan said, “we are very glad we can help and promote pineapple support. It’s a great initiative and we want models to know that there is an accessible and friendly place to go to. Models need to know that through Pineapple support they can get free access to counseling and emotional support that is available 24/7 via online chat.”

“Working in the adult industry is tough. People are biased about sexworkers and cammodels have to deal with trolls on a daily basis. It’s easy to say, “Hey just ignore them and spend your energy on people that like you”, but this is just not how the world works. We are only humans and it matters to you, whether you like it or not, what people say.”

The WeCamgirls community has over 20,000 models and was created to give cammodels “a home”. All the serious and not so serious topics are discussed on the forum and experiences are shared in the review section.

Brandon’s Story

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When I was 12 years old, my mother committed suicide. She was the 3rd family member in my life to do so. At that time the feeling of loneliness and fear were overwhelming. What I wouldn’t have given to have someone there, someone to listen and provide hope. This is one of the many reason I decided to become a listener with Pineapple Support. You may not know this now, but a small fraction of your time, simply listening could change a person’s life, it could bring the promise of a tomorrow that otherwise may never have come for them.

Giving back to my adult community and industry is just a small gift I can give to help others find mental health support and outlets in a sometimes all to lonely business.

I would ask anyone with a caring heart to please consider giving this amazing opportunity a chance. You can’t imagine the feeling of love and connection until you’ve walked with someone truly struggling, when you stop talking and start listening you see and hear things in a different light. Helping others has HELPED me more than I could have known. I’ve worked on so many personal issues and have grown so much through my work with Pineapple Support. You can make all the difference in OUR world too.

Pineapple support training is straightforward and direct. You will receive hands on training through our app it allows you to learn and practice the techniques you learn along the way as you collect your badges and advance in steps to become a Pineapple Listener. Sometimes the greatest gifts in life are not the ones we receive but the ones we give. Give hope a chance, be the light in someone’s world, let love shine above all else.

Be a listener in a world full of noise.

3 STEPS FOR LETTING GO OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

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Feeling depressed or anxious is never pleasant but this unpleasantness is what makes negative emotions useful. Our brains are hardwired to attend to that which may harm us. Similar to how hunger motivates us to seek food, negative emotions motivate us to seek safety and comfort (and to take better care of ourselves).

Bad days and bad moods are a normal and healthy part of the human experience. But prolonged negative thinking can result in negative thinking habits, which alter our neural structure over time. However, we can lessen the impact that negative thoughts, emotions, and experiences have on our brains.

Psychologist Steve Hayes suggests that we allow ourselves to feel bad in order to feel better. This may seem counterintuitive, especially to Western cultures where we try to control and rid ourselves of our anxiety, depression, and frustration. But Tibetan Buddhists believe that this attempted control is the problem and not the solution.

An increasingly popular new treatment called Acceptance Commitment Therapy is based on this assumption. ACT proposes that when we stop fighting our emotional pain and focus on the things that are important to us, we actually suffer less.

Accepting negative emotions can free up mental energy to focus on other more important things in our lives.
ACT’s founder, Steve Hayes, suggests that when we judge a thought or feeling, we give it more power. For example, the more time and energy that we spend trying to control our anxious thoughts, the more anxious we become.

Beating ourselves up about feeling down just adds more negative feelings to the collection we’re already coping with. So we become depressed about being depressed. We may not be able to shift our unwanted mood but we can change how we feel about the mood itself.

The less attention we give to our negative thoughts and feelings, the less impact they have on our neural structure.
We have thousands of thoughts and feelings a day. We can’t possibly attend to all of them. When negative thoughts arise, don’t ignore them, judge them, or try to stop them. Acknowledge them and let them pass. Here is how.

1. Let your negative thoughts and feelings flow. Neurologist Rick Hall suggests that we think of our thoughts as flowing through our mind like a river. If we attach to a thought, then we can ‘let it go and let it flow.’ Here is an example.

Attaching negative thoughts and feelings:

Thought: I feel like such a failure.

Reaction: I am doing it again. I am beating myself up. Every time I try to be positive, I fail. See, I am a failure. Stop it. Stop it. But I can’t even do this right. Ugh.

Accepting negative thoughts and feelings and letting go:

Thought: I feel like such a failure.

Reaction. Hmmm. There is that thought again. What should I have for dinner?

2. Meditate ten minutes a day to get better at it. Apps such as Headspace offer short (some are only 1-2 minutes) exercises that you can do anywhere. The Acceptance exercise teaches how to accept our own thoughts and feelings as well as other people’s difficulties. There are also short exercises on patience, pain management, and happiness.

3. Practice self-compassion. I say ‘practice’ because self-compassion is a skill. We will inevitably get stuck on negative thoughts and feelings and it easy to get disheartened. With Kristen Neff’s collection of self-compassion meditations, you can learn to compassionately let thoughts and feelings flow. The less palatable it sounds to you, the more you may need it.

Accepting our negative thoughts and feelings does not mean that we should not take steps to better our lives. “Letting our thoughts flow” is useful when we have done what we can to remedy our negative mood but it still persists. We don’t have to be carried away by our thoughts and emotions. And letting go frees up the mental space so we can focus more on the positive experiences in our lives.

Warm regards,

Jena

HOW TO CATCH DEPRESSION BEFORE IT CATCHES YOU

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When we think of depression, we may imagine being permanently pyjama-clad, lying in bed or on the sofa in a dark room, unable to move. Clinical depression (or major depressive disorder) can look this way and the Internet and media often paint this picture.

If we research depression symptoms online, it usually brings up Clinical depression information, leaving some of us thinking that, it feels bad but it’s not as bad as all that.

But some depressive symptoms are less recognizable. Most of us are busy. We might feel down but we can’t afford to stop. Even when a situation (like a breakup) triggers deep sadness in us, we have to keep going. So the symptoms are subtler, more gradual, and easier to disregard. They sneak up on us and if unaddressed they can become debilitating.

Recognise any of these?

– A sense of heaviness you can’t shake
– Impatience, irritability, quickly losing your temper over little things
– Growing intolerance of others, our surroundings, or ourselves
– Heightened awareness of negative things
– An emboldened inner critic, bullying ourselves or self-loathing
– Incessant worrying (going over the same thing again and again) or catastrophizing (using words like always and never)
– Wanting to hide from the world and avoiding things that make us feel better (friends, exercise, nature)

Our brain activity is habit forming; the more we think and feel certain ways, the more likely we will think and feel that way in the future. A persistent low mood can spiral into depression and the lower we spiral, the harder it is to pick ourselves back up.

We all have low moods but when feelings of depression seem unshakeable, it is time to start paying attention to them. One of the best ways to deal with depression is to catch it early.

Here is how:

– Become mindful of how you talk to yourself. Would you lose friends if you talked to them the way you talk to yourself? Your inner critic may have pushed you to do better but it can push you down that depression spiral too.
Get blood tests from your doctor. Low mood can be a side-effect of any number of physical ailments: nutritional deficiencies, bacterial imbalances in your gut, hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism, fibromyalgia, hormonal imbalance, food allergies, infections, and medications.

– Create exercise accountability. Exercise is one of the best ways to improve our mood. We may have the best intentions to exercise regularly, but low mood can sap our motivation. When depressed, we are far more likely to put it off.

So instead of beating yourself up for not exercising, put measures into place that hold you accountable. For example, book a boutique exercise class, schedule workouts with a friend, or join a beginner’s club team (your Fris team depends on you). If you have no problem skipping those type activities, then hire a trainer for 30 minutes twice a week. (Hire a really cute one for added motivation!) Tell her/him to follow up with you if you miss a session.

– Forgive yourself for feeling this way and for setbacks that may have triggered these feelings. Low mood often increases our critical self-talk. We feel down so we beat ourselves up, which makes us feel even lower. Interrupt the self-critical spiral with self-compassion. If this sounds too difficult, read or listen to The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook by Tim Desmond.

– Listen to what thoughts are driving your emotions. There is no such thing as a ‘negative’ emotion. Even depression serves to protect us. Our low mood is a red flag. Sometimes it is telling us to slow down, to reconnect with loved ones, or to disconnect from unhealthy situations. Or to get help.

– The app Thought Record app from Moodnotes helps you uncover the situations and thinking patterns that may trigger your low mood. And to find alternative, more helpful perspectives.

Everyone feels low, drained, or worn-out occasionally. Many of the symptoms of major depressive disorder – irritability, lethargy, and hopelessness – can be normal reactions to stressful life events.

‘Sometimes, depression is a perfectly reasonable response to trouble in your life.’ Karla McLaren

However, if your low mood is cyclical or doesn’t respond to the healing changes you make, talk to your doctor or a professional therapist.

If you think you might be clinically depressed, you can take this test.  Depression Self Assessment

References

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Fifth edition.
Tim Desmond. (2017). The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook. A 14-Day Plan to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself
Rick Hanson. (2013). Hardwiring Happiness. The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence.
Karla McLaren. (2010). The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You.
Robert Plutchik. (1980). Theories of Emotion (Volume 1).
Dan Siegel. (2010). Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation.
Bessel van der Kolk. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

Warm regards,

Jena

Pineapple Support is Looking for Volunteers To Join Their Team of Listeners

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Becoming a Volunteer Listener for Pineapple Support

Volunteer listeners have full control over when and how long they are available to listen. They provide a safe, anonymous, caring, non-judgemental and completely stigma free space for adult industry performers to reach out.

 

What it means to become a listener.

Pineapple Support provides free emotional support 24/7 to people within the adult entertainment industry. We want to support others so they never have to feel alone. Having someone there to listen can make all the difference in someone’s life. Active listening is a great way to support someone. It’s not solving problems, it’s helping someone feel heard, valued, and understood.

Pineapple Support have joined up with 7 Cups of Tea, one of the biggest and best emotional support platforms. When you join Pineapple Support, you not only get to feel good about doing something awesome.

– You become part of the community that genuinely cares and helps others. As a listener, you have access to peers, other listeners, and mentors.

– You develop excellent active listening skills, which will strengthen your relationships, improve your confidence, and equip you to deal with conflicts.

– You get free hands-on training that is designed to help you learn by doing. As 7 Cups says, training is directly relevant and immediately applicable to your life.

Here is how it works: we provide free online training & support – all you need is an internet connection to get started.

  • Free active listening course
  • Online volunteering from home (or via app!)
  • Control your own availability to listen
  • Get certifications to boost your resume
  • Get support & coaching from friendly mentors
  • Feel amazing that you are making a difference in other peoples lives!

 

Click here and join our team of listeners today.

Self-Care as simple as A-B-C

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Every job takes energy but being an adult entertainer or a support in the industry requires giving a lot of ourselves, sometimes to the point of burnout. During self-care month, we are highlighting ways to spot and change the habits that drain us and ways to re-energize when we feel depleted. Here is a start:

 

Self-care works best when we take an A-B-C approach; Awareness, Balance, and Connection.

 

  • Find your own ‘optimal range’ of productivity. Take stock of your commitments. Write down both the positive and the negative effects (money, strain, stress, fatigue). And then rate the necessity of them. Be honest, are you doing it because you need to or because someone else expects it of you?

 

  • Make a list of self-care strategies. If you find this difficult, ask friends, family, colleagues, which self-care strategies they find most effective.

 

  • Schedule time in your diary each week for guilt-free self-care. This doesn’t have to be big or time consuming. It can be curling up with a favorite movie or having a cappuccino date with a friend.

 

  • Have transition time from work to home. For example, do five ‘sun salutations’ or change into comfy clothes when you get home. Create a habit that signals to your brain that it is time to wind down.

 

  • Set a time each day when you completely disconnect from technology (phone, computer, television, everything). Even an hour break from technology can recharge you before you face the online world again.

 

  • Spend face-to-face time with people who give you support. A hug is worth a thousand encouraging words, especially when you feel drained. But talk is important too! Talk out your stress. Process your thoughts and reactions with someone else (colleague, therapist, friend, family member). Make a plan of how you can strengthen your positive support system and distance yourself from those who fuel your stress.

 

  • Spend time with a pet. Pets accept whatever affection you are able to give them without asking for more and can give endless amount of unconditional support in return. Bonus – our blood pressure and heart rate decreases when interacting with animals.

 

  • Make laughter, joy, and play a priority at home. Creating fun may be a focus at work but it’s equally important at home. Name three things you feel grateful for today. Think of something that brings you a sense of joy (Make a top ten list and keep it handy when you are down). Who do you love that you can reach out to today (Call them!). What made you laugh today? (Share it!)

 

Self-care not only helps us personally, it helps us to be our best work selves as well. Remember, in order to give our best at work, we must have something left to give. If you feel overwhelmed or like you need more support than you have access to at home, contact Pineapple Support.

 

Dr. Jena Field

Pineapple Support Sponsors Free Suicide Prevention Training Day

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LOS ANGELES — Pineapple Support is set to sponsor a free suicide prevention training day in Tarzana on Sunday, March 24.

The event is specifically aimed at helping agents, performers and producers better cope with crisis situations.

“We all need to know the warning signs for suicide, and how to prevent it,” said Leya Tanit, founder and president of Pineapple Support. “While mental resources are important, not everyone seeks help on their own. The training day will give people the skills they need to help make that crucial difference and to possibly save a life.”

Pineapple Support’s Suicide Prevention Day will begin at 11 a.m.

Speakers will include:

  • Amanda Clemens , discussing suicide prevention and crisis intervention.
  • Hernando Chaves, discussing self-care and self-esteem.
  • Leya Tanit, giving an overview of Pineapple Support and the services it provides.

“Education and knowledge is the key to preventing self-harm,” said Tanit. “I invite anyone who routinely deals with performers, from directors to make-up artists to bookers, to come for this free training. Together, we can build a net to help those who may be slipping.”

“Mental health is an issue that has touched each persons life. Additional training with suicide awareness, crisis intervention, managing mental health, self-care, and promoting self-worth can benefit anyone pursuing balance and managing life stressors.” said Hernando Chaves “Attending trainings that increase awareness with mental health concerns and teaches best practices to intervening in emergencies can be valuable tools to have when a difficult situation arises. ”

The event is open to all persons working in the adult industry. For more information, contact Pineapple Support here and follow their Twitter handle.