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A Magical Hogwarts Workout : Unlocking the Mood-Boosting Power of Exercise – The Cam Girl and The Coach

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Emma is an International Life Coach, friend and ally to those working within the adult industries. You can contact her here – www.imperfectly-you.com

 

The Cam Model story –

The client entered an exclusive chat…

C : ‘Can you do a role play for me?’

‘Erm sure’ I replied…only 1 week into my new camming job

C : ‘I’d love to do a Harry Potter Scene, can you be Hermione and I’ll be the gym teacher?’

‘Yes great’ I said, ‘so how should we start?’

C : ‘You’re in a gym class at Hogwarts school, and I’m about to put you through a sweaty workout – are you sure you’re ready?’

I replied ‘yes of course!’ I also felt pretty smug, this client didn’t know that I was absolutely obsessed with exercise and loved nothing more than a hard-core gym sesh…there’s no way he would break me. I was SO ready…

Half an hour in and we had wall sits (on a dildo) , burpees (whilst sucking a dildo) and full squat reps…yes you’ve guessed it ON TO A DILDO.

My god this guy was relentless, I was absolutely pouring in sweat, mascara melting down my face but adamant that I wouldn’t call for mercy. When I agreed to do this exclusive block session I forgot that it wasn’t going to be just a workout and would obviously involve some sort of sex work – duh, god I was naive in my first week of my new job.

After 45 minutes of a gruelling sweaty dildo fuelled HIIT workout the session finally came to an end with the client finally requesting I scream,

‘I’m Hermione the Hogwarts Gym Slut and I want you to penetrate me with your magical wand dark lord!!!’

Thank fuck that was over….

Afterwards I was swiftly left with a message in my inbox announcing my acceptance into Hogwarts School of Witchcraft & Wizardry, I’d passed the test. This certificate was attached.

 

The effort of this client really was amazing

Even though it was very sweaty, gruelling and tough, the endorphins were flowing and I felt AMAZING. Why is it that exercise can make us feel so goddamn good?!

 

Thoughts from the coach – 

The very first thing I’ll ask a client if they are suffering from low mood is – are you active?

It plays a HUGE part in how we feel about ourselves and the world around us.

Engaging in physical activity triggers the release of chemicals in your brain that contribute to a profound sense of well-being, bolstering self-esteem, improving concentration, quality of sleep, and overall mood.

I personally use exercise to manage my OCD. I had suffered with this since I was a child. After taking up regular exercise in my mid 20’s (I’m now 35) my OCD has been practically non existent. You can read more about my story with Crossfit & OCD here.

Yes my vice was Crossfit, but you don’t have to be as extreme. It can be as varied as a walk in the park, dancing in your living room or gentle stretches.

So, if you’re new to exercise or just starting again what can you do to help yourself?

 

  • Start slowly – don’t push yourself too hard at the beginning. Begin with short sessions and low intensity to give your body time to adapt.
  • Find a workout buddy or a class – Exercising with a friend or in a group can provide motivation, support, and make the experience more enjoyable.
  • Choose activities you enjoy: Find physical activities that you genuinely enjoy doing. It could be dancing, swimming, hiking, cycling, or even a team sport. When you have fun, it becomes easier to stay motivated.
  • Set reminders: Put exercise sessions in your calendar or set reminders on your phone to help you stay on track.
  • Track your progress: Seeing yourself improving is one of the greatest motivators!
  • Get enough rest: Allow your body to recover by getting adequate sleep and incorporating rest days into your exercise routine, this is so important.

Check in with your mind: How did you feel before and after, has your mood improved?

*If you experience pain or discomfort, take a break and consult a healthcare professional if needed.
**dildo also optional

Remember, the key is to start small, stay consistent, and gradually build up your exercise routine. It’s not about perfection; it’s about progress and taking care of your body and mind.
Tomorrow’s ‘you’ will thank you!

Life Coach Emma x

Finding Strength in Slow Times: The Unwavering Resilience of Cam Models – The Cam Girl and the Coach

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Emma is an International Life Coach, friend and ally to those working within the adult industries. You can contact her here – www.imperfectly-you.com

 

Sarah’s story – 

I went from making $250 in an hour to $39 in an hour overnight.

In the business of online camming this is just the way the cookie crumbles.

One day you’re smashing your personal targets and the next there’s virtual tumbleweed blowing through your chat room. Not a soul willing to spend any money with you.

You’re doing the exact same thing you usually do, chatting to customers and giving off the energy that your customers usually LOVE.

When I’m experiencing periods of low income, sometimes it’s difficult to not think it’s my fault. Is it something that I’m doing wrong?

This isn’t like a 9 to 5 where if I’m having an off day I show up, do the bare minimum and still get paid the same.

If I don’t show up and give it my all – I don’t get paid, and sometimes even that isn’t enough. This is why I think that resilience is one of the key traits needed to work in this industry.

What can we do to help ourselves be more resilient during times like these?


Thoughts from the Coach – 

The more than likely reality is that things may be slow due to other reasons that are out of your control. The cam website may be sending less traffic your way, it’s a time of the month where customers haven’t been paid yet or there could be public holidays causing your usual customers to be spending time with their families instead of jerking off online.

Whatever the reason you will never truly know, but rest assured I’m 99.9% sure it’s not your fault.

So let’s discuss resilience….the ability to adapt, bounce back and recover from challenges and setbacks.

Resilient people tap into their strengths and support systems to work through problems. How could this apply when camming?

  1. Prioritize self care – When traffic is slow you may feel the need to work every hour under the sun. This can sometimes be at the cost of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It’s important to make time for yourself and avoid overworking by setting hours you are comfortable with and being strict with yourself by not working any longer than this. Engaging in activities that recharge you can also help such as exercise, hobbies, relaxation techniques, or spending time with friends/family.
  2. Set Boundaries – When your room is quiet you may be tempted to offer services, roleplays or situations that you wouldn’t usually consider. Although this may be tempting, if it’s not something you’re comfortable with, don’t do it. Determine what you are comfortable with regarding the content, interactions, and level of engagement you are willing to offer. Communicate these boundaries to your viewers and enforce them consistently. 
  3. Adaptability – If it’s slow on stream how else might you make extra income – can you sell content via mass messaging or other platforms? Perhaps you could drop your price per minute and offer much more PG content like dirty talk for only a fraction of the price.
  4. Social Support – https://www.reddit.com/r/CamGirlProblems/ & https://www.wecamgirls.com/ are great places to connect with other cam models. Having access to supportive relationships and resources in the adult industry can provide emotional, practical, and informational support during difficult times. These types of forums are a great place to ask for advice when times may be slow. Most models on these sites are more than happy to help a fellow model.


Remember – you are powerful, adaptive, creative and resilient! Wishing you a profitable week.

Life Coach Emma x

The Art of Authenticity: Cam Models and the Power of Personal Creativity – The Cam Girl and the Coach

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This is a blog post co-created by cam model Amelia and Life Coach Emma. We’ve created this blog to shed light on the daily encounters of a Cam Model and how looking at things from a coaching perspective may help you navigate the world between a sexy bad ass adult star and the person you are when the cameras are off.

Amelia Streams on a Premium chat site and Emma is an International Life Coach, friend and ally to those working within the adult industries. You can contact her here – www.imperfectly-you.com

 

Amelia’s story

‘I want to serenade you’ – says the customer in my chat room.

I automatically categorise him in my head as the over complimentary type of customer. We all get them in our chat rooms. ‘You’re stunning’ … ‘Wow an angel sits before me’…’I want to tenderly caress your neck’.

‘Oh really, well I’d love to hear you sing’ – I reply by making small chit chat thinking he’s talking sh*t and wasting my time talking to me without even sending a tip!

Nope – this customer was very serious.

He clicks exclusive and we are now in paid chat.

He turns his cam on and I am presented with his room. A makeshift music studio put together in his closet. Rows of cowboy boots and shirts lined up behind him. He’s sitting on a stool with headphones on, a guitar on his knee and a professional mic set up in front of him. The kind you see in recording studios. The customer is also fully clothed and giving me a thumbs up symbol.

I smile and nod ‘wow you really were serious – are you about to sing to me?!’

Now I’m the type of person that has to turn singing shows off on the TV because I find them so cringe – so my fake face of enthusiasm is really going to be put to the test here.

With no introduction, he strums his guitar and begins singing.

It’s a full blown country song, serenading me with lyrics about missing his love in Texas. I should have suspected, the cowboy boots in his closet/music studio were a dead giveaway of what I was about to hear. I’m swaying and clicking my fingers saying things like ‘fantastic’, ‘amazing’, ‘you’re so talented’. Anything to encourage his very brave performance.

This man was singing from the top of his lungs and was giving it his all. It was truly admirable in a way, even though he wasn’t the best singer by any means. After 7 minutes and $70 dollars later, he finished his set, and I asked him what song he was covering.

He tells me he wrote it himself and that he has many more like this. He’s also hoping that his friend is going to help him properly record them too. He gives me another thumbs up and logs off. That was it, no naked time or sex talk. He simply wanted me to be a witness to something he felt proud of.

It got me thinking that in a job (as an online cam girl) where we may be faking a certain personality some of the time we can feel slightly detached from who we really are. How can we reconnect with ourselves?

 

Thoughts from the Coach – 

Doing something creative as a human being is a real way to show authenticity and your personal identity. When we create things from our own thoughts, efforts and skills we feel proud, and as a Life Coach, authenticity is something that comes up time and time again when speaking with clients. Questions arise such as,

  • When do we feel truly authentic and ourselves?
  • What creative things do we really enjoy that bring us a sense of pride?
  • How can we make time for more of this in our lives?


Creativity serves as a catalyst for fostering authenticity by providing a means of self-expression and exploration. It can allow us to honour our personal voice, connect with our emotions and empower our individuality.

If you’re a sex worker like Amelia you’re probably pretty busy making content for your brand, live streaming or performing. Yes these activities may be creative but when did you last do something creative and fun truly for you?

Here is my invitation for you to do something creative just for yourself this week.

  • Go out dancing
  • Take that pottery class
  • Read that book you keep meaning to read
  • Paint/draw/photograph


Whatever feeds your soul.

Or be like the guy in his cowboy boot closet singing country music at the top of his lungs.

Be unapologetically you!

Emma x