Healing Through Kink
Regardless of someone’s trauma, which may look exactly like their kink or not at all, kink provides a container for a somatic and relational experience that can re-write our narratives.
For survivors of sexual assault, profound reclamation can be found through the negotiation, execution and aftercare of a scene. By playing in a controlled environment where the sub dictates what happens, we can re-write traumatic moments from the past, in a way that they are in charge. Not only are we healing in the moment, but portals are opened to heal past selves and repair places where traumatic energy may remain stuck in the body.
Kink can be seen as a sensual, intimate and powerful somatic practice which many people find healing in. There is strength in being able to reclaim parts of your sexuality that have been buried or feel shame-fueled from past trauma.
Join us on this journey, while we discover how being a part of the kink and BDSM lifestyle can affect mental health and possibly help persons heal from past trauma.
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‘BDSM and How To Use It To Heal Past Trauma’ with Rachael Wells
BDSM is a lifestyle, preference, and interest that many people are becoming more accustomed to and interested in due to media coverage and social discussions. BDSM has long been used in marginalized communities to heal from lack of dominance, social status, and power. Although research shows that the majority of kink lifestyles do not originate from trauma, BDSM can be a powerful tool to increase communication, consent, pleasure, and joy in and outside the bedroom for those that have been disenfranchised. Join to learn more about how this lifestyle may enhance parts of your life that you never thought it could!
Rachael is an empathetic, driven, passionate individual and leader who provides high quality, person-centered therapy from acceptance and commitment therapy, EMDR AIP, mindfulness, self-compassion, internal family systems, and strengths-based models.
Rachael is a licensed mental health counselor (LMHC) in the state of Florida and holds the title of EMDR approved therapist. Rachael is also a registered yoga teacher (RYT-200).
Rachael works with populations that include people dealing with acute sexual assault, domestic violence, sexual abuse, low self-compassion, low impulse control, those with borderline personality disorder, the sex worker community, and the transgender community. Their specific specialty is trauma within marginalized communities.
‘BDSMeditation’ with Jordan Wolan
Are you curious about the power of the mind, in relation to BDSM and kink? Join us for a gentle guided meditation, to connect with your kinky self and discover inner resources for growth, transformation and self care. In this experiential workshop you will be guided on a journey to connect to your dominant or submissive archetype. Come with an intention, or just to relax and let go.
What you will need: A quiet secure space free of distraction, where you can lie down or sit comfortably. Headphones are optional but recommended. Please be on time as this is an experiential workshop.
About the Presenter: Jordan Wolan is a Certified Hypnotherapist and Reiki Master in Los Angeles. Jordan helps clients break through unconscious blocks to remove unwanted thoughts and behaviors and create positive changes. She draws from the modalities of hypnosis, NLP, and mindfulness practices to support her clients in healing from trauma, overcoming anxiety, and eliminating fear and shame. Her passion is in seeing people achieve their personal and professional goals, and change limiting beliefs into empowering ones. Both knowledgeable and nurturing, Jordan has experience working with a variety of populations and diverse lifestyles, with special attention given to underrepresented communities including the LGBTQ+, sex-worker and kink communities. She joined Pineapple Support in 2020. She is currently training to be a certified Cannabis-Assisted Psychedelic Therapist through the Center for Medicinal Mindfulness in Boulder, CO. Jordan’s hobbies include flow arts/spinning fire, tarot and Beat Saber on Oculus Quest. She lives with her partner and cat in Los Angeles – both have sharp claws, but only one will buy her fancy dinners. Her website is: JordanWolan.com
@jordanwolancht | jordanwolan.com
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‘Trauma, Drama & Kink’ with Jasmine Johnson
This intro workshop/webinar will explore how an alternative approach to exposure therapy in the form of role-playing and BDSM/ Kink can support healing existing traumas. Revisiting past trauma, in the right context, allow the participants space where s/he has control over what happens and how the scene ends. Reframing and creating positive experiences in place of the negative provide a new opportunity to live free. This is vital to those performers that are engaged in similar sex work with clients, as well as for their own personal trauma/kink experiences
Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist with a strong emphasis on Intimacy Post Injury & Illness, Trauma, Drama and Kink and Sex Positive Parenting. Jasmine is the co owner of Royal Fetish Films where the love of the arts, film and sex education are combined to produce erotica that stimulates and engages the audience to push their sexual boundaries. Jasmine shares over 20 years of experience, with partner King Noire, as Adult Entertainers, Educators and Master Fetish Trainers. The duo are award winning adult film stars and have dedicate their craft to creating a more inclusive and ethically sound adult entertainment industry.
‘Kink/BDSM 101’ with Lee Harrington
presented by ShinyBound
Getting Spicy & Freaky: BDSM and Kink Basics — Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. These words elicit for many people a sense of titillation, or of dread. In this humorous and accessible approach to learning about alternative and sometimes edgy sexual practices, we will be looking at what draws people to this wide array of kinky sex interests, as well as other similar topics such as fetishism, voyeurism, exhibitionism, “alternative” relationship structures, swinging and more. After looking at what kinky sex is and why people get into it, we will have an opportunity to look at the variety of types of things that are enjoyed in spicy bedroom (and out of the bedroom) games, the tools used, and how these things can be and are safe to explore. Bring your sense of humor and your curiosity to this opportunity to learn about the wide variety of sexual expression found in BDSM and kinky sex
Lee Harrington (he/him) is an internationally known spiritual and erotic authenticity educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist, and award-winning author and editor on erotic and sacred experience. He’s been traveling the globe teaching and talking about sexuality, psychology, faith, and desire, and believes you deserve passion and connection in your life. His books include “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Negotiating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” (with Mollena Williams), “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities,” amongst many others. Lee has been a passion instigator, academic, adult film performer, world class sexual adventurer, outspoken philosopher, polytheist priest/ess, kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirit since 1998. Read more about Lee at PassionAndSoul.com.
‘On Your Knees: Power in Submission’ with Justine Cross
Presented by Feet4Cash
This class is for those who: 1) Want to explore their submissive side 2) have a partner that is dominant and would like you to submit to them 3) Know you are submissive and want to deepen your understanding of D/s.
This class is not about how to be a professional submissive or switch. This class is about discovering and developing your submissive persona. It is available to all genders and sexualities. In this workshop, learn the basics of submission or bottoming.
Have you ever felt the call to be submissive and weren’t sure how to start? Are you looking for your dominant counterpart and want to be ready when they come along? We’ll explore: What makes a great submissive or bottom? Learning to express your kinky needs. Consent using the Kink Negotiation Worksheet. Styles of submission. Protocol and etiquette and other fancy words for how to serve. Contracts and agreements. Boundary setting and inner work. Skill building for service.
Together we’ll explore the role of the submissive, and how to safely create boundaries for healthy D/s relationships. If you are just beginning your journey this will give you the foundation to serve, as well as make a great impression on your dominant.
Justine Cross is femme queer BDSM consultant quarantined in Los Angeles. She owns Dungeon East (and Dungeon West,) 2 premiere BDSM studios.
Justine is an educator, a provocateur and all around bad ass Bitch who also runs BDSFemme – an all women’s play party. In a state of rainbow panic and glitter, she organized and hosted the 1st LA Kink Pride – a series of events and classes conducted entirely online.
Her favorite things to do in quarantine include mourning the semi dead plants she bought at the beginning, going to virtual strip clubs and having craft cocktails delivered weekly.
Please visit her website: LosAngelesDominatrix.com
Follow her on insta/clubhouse/tiktok @thejustinecross
twitter @justineplays
‘Neurobiology of Trauma and it’s Overlap in Kink’ with Angie Gunn
BDSM holds many useful tools for healing parts of ourselves, particularly those parts of our brain and bodies which were harmed in relationships and power dynamics. The ability to create and cultivate safe, consensual, clearly negotiated play provides a perfect framework for reclaiming power and redefining our relationship with ourselves and others. However engaging in kink as a tool for trauma healing can also cause more harm if not done well. This workshop will provide in depth neurobiology of the intersections between kink and trauma, as well as some basic guidelines and strategies for beginning the use of kink in healing, and precautions to take to ensure more damage doesn’t occur. Your access to your pleasure, and the full expression of your erotic self, often awaits just on the other side of trauma. We can help you find the entrance to that path
Angie Gunn is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in private practice in Portland, OR, and online through Talkspace. She is out as queer, kinky, and non-monogamous and serves the LGBTQIPA+, kinky, non-monogamous, sexual trauma, and others as an ally, advocate, and resource for connection, change and healing. She also serves as Sex Therapy Expert for Talkspace, supporting more than 2000 therapists. Trained in sexuality, trauma, attachment and family systems, she works as a therapist and clinical social worker, identifying the barriers to healthy relationships, sexual expression, and overall well-being and assisting in developing resiliency skills. She’s also the board chair of SPEEC, a sexuality non-profit in Portland, Or. Experienced in training, facilitation as well as mediation across different audiences, Angie is an advocate and strong voice for empowerment, intersectionality, sexual expression and connection in our community.
‘Intimacy Through Kink’ with Mistress Kye
Panelists – Master Joshua, Jet Set Jasmine, King Noir, Lance Hart, Nyssa Nevers, ShinyBound, Miles Striker
Presented by LoyalFans
We have all practiced, fantasized or secretly desired what may be considered ‘unconventional’ sexual practices. It’s the beautiful nature of our erotic minds to engage with ideas that create arousal in our bodies.
You don’t need to be excited by pain, bondage and humiliation to be kinky. You might prefer foot worship or a sensual spanking or the smell of leather while you’re blindfolded. Kink teaches you how to use your erotic mind to discover what turns you on.
Kink is psychological, it’s physical, it’s deep, it’s fun, it’s intense, it’s playful. It’s whatever you decide you want it to be. And most often it’s about relationship. Partners, romantic or otherwise, who become sexual explorers together acknowledge and honor each other’s ongoing sexual evolution. They begin see each other with fresh eyes and renewed appreciation.
Mistress Kye is a lifestyle Domme, Professional Dominatrix & BDSM/Kink educator who’s been involved in the adult industry in varying capacities for 35 years. She hosts kink/BDSM classes, support groups, workshops & events in the Philadelphia region and nationally. In more recent years, Mistress Kye has helped run the eXXXotica Expo Dungeon Experience as well as teach classes/seminars for the convention which travels to 4 cities annually. She’s an advocate for the kink community and has been invited to present at several colleges/universities.
‘Exploring Therapeutic Kink’ with Ti Murray
Much like we understand that there is a difference between getting a relaxing massage from a friend or lover, and seeing a professional for a healing massage, we must also consider that difference in Kink and BDSM. The practice of Therapeutic Kink is more than mindfulness and care, which should be an expected aspect of all play. It is also an incorporation of myriad other therapeutic and psychological practices. Join us for an experiential discussion of how we explore this difference and how this work continues evolving today.
Ti (tea) is the author of A Kink in the Cure and a Therapeutic Kink Practitioner. At their core, they are a believer in making the world a better place. By day, they consult with businesses and governments on cultural change strategies and disruptive transformation initiatives, coaching leaders in pursuit of their goals, and mediating conflict in relationships and the workplace. By night, they are advancing the evolution of society through sexual freedom education and kinky coaching, supporting local non-profits, and engaging with subversive social-change organizations. They carry a degree in Individualized Studies from Goddard College, where they focused on Behavioral Science with an emphasis on the use of BDSM as a tool for healing sexual shame and trauma.
‘Defining Fetishes and Fantasy Fulfullment’ with Devin Green
Presented by Clips4Sale
What’s your fetish? What’s your biggest fantasy? Questions that are evolving more and more into “small talk” in today’s modern society. This presentation will dive more into what exactly these words mean to you and how they may shape your intimate world, so that you can step into that realm with more power and confidence. I will explore misconceptions of fetishisms, along with walking you through on how to create your “scene” for fantasy fufillment. Hope to see you there!!!
Devin believes that human sexuality should be incorporated into the holistic approach of wellbeing. With both personal and professional experience in power exchange, gender identity and expression and ethically, non monogamous ways to exist in relationships, her passion lies in exploring all the alternative ways that one can show up in the world.
‘Nuances of Boundaries’ with Mickey Mod
presented by Kink.com
Panelists: Casey Calvert, Dillon Diaz, Dr. Liz Powell, Angie Gunn, Sebastian Keys, Fivestar, Domino Presley
Consent is fluid, it is nuanced and it is one of the most important topics not only in the adult industry, but in day to day life. Consent and communication are about removing pressure so that we can be as confident as possible. They should be the primary focus both on and off set, and not an afterthought.
Simply because we have done something before does not mean we are obligated to repeat it. Because we agreed to certain limits before a scene, does not mean we are obligated to perform them.
Consent is active, open, ongoing and without pressure. Join us as we discuss best practices, of both giving and receiving consent.
Kink.com was started in 1997 by bondage enthusiast, Peter, who was a PhD student. After realizing consensual BDSM games were more exciting than finance, he left academia to devote his life to subjecting beautiful, willing women to strict bondage.
Through adhering to our core values, Kink.com has grown into a respected company which has attracted talented employees. Kink’s team of more than 90 people is now dedicated to bringing you the most imaginative fetish material. Each of our unique websites is directed by a webmaster who is heavily kinky. Each webmaster’s passion is to bring their kink to life to deliver authentic fetish footage. Our models are never told to act or artificially struggle.
BDSM is about respect and trust.
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